Comments on: When Sexual Identity Can Get In The Way

By: Dale

Dale — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:02:56 +0000

Hi there,
I appreciated the thoughtfulness of your post.
Sexual Identity is an interesting topic and your thoughts are valuable for anyone seeking more perspective.
I recently (on my blog) suggested a distinction between desires, actions and identity; hoping that this distinction would help people of all persuasions discuss things more constructively, and accurately, etc.
Among other things, I suggest (and I don’t mean to ‘push’ this idea on you) that letting our sexual desires (of whatever kind) ’sum us up’ is unneccesary and can cause problems in all kinds of situations (including discussion with people with differing views).
Thanks again!
-d-

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Tue, 06 May 2008 22:30:16 +0000

[...] use to describe myself – and I still find it doesn’t fit all that comfortably (see rant about when sexual identity can get in the way). But hearing that a silly narrow-minded man in Greece wants to take it away has suddenly made me [...]

By: eshne

eshne — Thu, 01 May 2008 21:57:53 +0000

Thanks Wendy

By: wep601

wep601 — Thu, 01 May 2008 16:33:30 +0000

“naked of tags” would be the ideal! My partner and I really still don’t know what to “tag” ourselves… you are right… love in its purest form is simply about one person loving another! Glad I stumbled in! Wendy

By: Acquafortis

Acquafortis — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 06:56:57 +0000

Well then, first of all I really love your new blog.
Then as regards sexual identity…I’m still struggling with mine. Experience taught me that putting on labels is yes comfortable but very risky. Sometimes you can just be left with only the label and nothing else.
I’m always wrestling with the easy-going label system and the freedom to be without one. Not only on myself but also on others.